OverProtective Parents, Insecure Children
When most of today's parents learned to ride a bike, they just got on and started pedalling. That was it. Nowadays kids were taught differently: they get the bike and also the helmet, some elbow pads, knee pads, gloves etc., This is a very noble and positive mentality right? So, where is the problem?
Every child needs their parent's protection against certain dangers they will encounter in their lives but when that protection becomes a bubble that isolates them from the majority of the things that happened in the outside world, then it becomes over protection.
Over protective parents are those who are continuously trying to prevent their children from facing conflicts and situations that are distressing and painful. These parents are tend to be excessively cautious with their children and often feel overly responsible about what might happen to them.
They want to prevent their child from suffering, having a bad time or having to go through many bad things which they went through in their childhood or in their adolescence. These good intentions deprive their children's proper learning experience since it does not provide them any chance to deal with the difficulties where they could extract the knowledge and strategies that would aid them in their future.
One research says that the kids who take risks tend to be less fearful and more independent adults and in turn the kids who didn't take any risks end up on the sidelines of the life.Those parents wont allow their children to face failures.
The overprotective parents are not allowing their children to solve their problems because they already solved those problems for them, so those children are lack in problem solving skills which is more essential for interpersonal relationships. This usually lead them to have negative experience with keeping/maintaining friendships. They often have the feeling of barely having good friends, they may suffer some disappointments with friends and not knowing exactly why.
The more protective the parents are, the less their child believe in themselves. The confidence of the child gets shaken when they see that their parents are not allowing them to travel alone. These children often feel insecure about whether they can make right decision or not. They feel insecure about the possible consequences of that particular decision. The research says that these individuals give up too soon when they face any difficulties that they dont know how to face, they prefer not to deal with it or to avoid it instead of working on the difficulty to find the possible solutions.
As a parent, everyone love their children a lot and want only the best for them. They want to shield their children from all possible tragedies that they foresee and protect them. If the Children are overprotected from the tender age, then they need high endorsements in life to move ahead. They need endorsements endlessly.
Lets kids explore the world. Just have their back, take precautions to ensure that you are there for them in case things go wrong, but for children's sake please dont hover over them. Dont treat them like a weak oil flame lamp when they are ready to face the wildly blowing winds.
So to the parents, "Let them get a little hurt, be there to put a bandage, but dont stop them from trying". This will help them to build healthy confidence
Over protective parents are those who are continuously trying to prevent their children from facing conflicts and situations that are distressing and painful. These parents are tend to be excessively cautious with their children and often feel overly responsible about what might happen to them.
They want to prevent their child from suffering, having a bad time or having to go through many bad things which they went through in their childhood or in their adolescence. These good intentions deprive their children's proper learning experience since it does not provide them any chance to deal with the difficulties where they could extract the knowledge and strategies that would aid them in their future.
One research says that the kids who take risks tend to be less fearful and more independent adults and in turn the kids who didn't take any risks end up on the sidelines of the life.Those parents wont allow their children to face failures.
The overprotective parents are not allowing their children to solve their problems because they already solved those problems for them, so those children are lack in problem solving skills which is more essential for interpersonal relationships. This usually lead them to have negative experience with keeping/maintaining friendships. They often have the feeling of barely having good friends, they may suffer some disappointments with friends and not knowing exactly why.
The more protective the parents are, the less their child believe in themselves. The confidence of the child gets shaken when they see that their parents are not allowing them to travel alone. These children often feel insecure about whether they can make right decision or not. They feel insecure about the possible consequences of that particular decision. The research says that these individuals give up too soon when they face any difficulties that they dont know how to face, they prefer not to deal with it or to avoid it instead of working on the difficulty to find the possible solutions.
As a parent, everyone love their children a lot and want only the best for them. They want to shield their children from all possible tragedies that they foresee and protect them. If the Children are overprotected from the tender age, then they need high endorsements in life to move ahead. They need endorsements endlessly.
Lets kids explore the world. Just have their back, take precautions to ensure that you are there for them in case things go wrong, but for children's sake please dont hover over them. Dont treat them like a weak oil flame lamp when they are ready to face the wildly blowing winds.
So to the parents, "Let them get a little hurt, be there to put a bandage, but dont stop them from trying". This will help them to build healthy confidence
I have felt this 🙄 and even am doing the same 😑 I am getting the feel from ur words will try to change myself di 👍
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